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June 15th, 2007

mental exercise

10 random things that make me happy:

1. The trees swaying and rustling in the wind.
2. The soft fur of a cat
3. leather bound books
4. the hum of air-conditioners
5. elevators
6. making lists
7. dreaming and fantasizing
8. having lunch spontaneously with a friend
9. the blue paint in my house that's called "raincloud"
10. the smell of my chocolate lotion which was free

on friendship

One of the things i've learnt in the past year (mostly because of co-workers), is that you can disagree, argue, yell at each other over a conflict, but still be friends, go hang out and have a beer...  especially if the conflict is relatively minor and was most likely a communication mismatch.

This was actually a big revelation to me. Because in the beginning I would take people's arguments personally, even though it was about work, and cut them off from my "friendship" realm.

But I've realized as I grow older, that it was stupid. A friendship is not worth losing over one single incident of argument, especially if it was over some minor thing, which was most likely a communication issue. You can be friends with someone, and occasionally get into a huge argument. In fact, anyone in a long term relationship will most likely relate.

I've told this to some older people, and they've nodded and said, "you're starting to mature". So when I find myself at the receiving end of someone getting mad at me over a silly argument, and then cutting off friendship ties, I'm a bit surprised. Rather ironical too.


Another thing to note: since I don't really have strong family ties.. the really close friends that I do have, I treasure them and cherish them.