March 29th, 2020

I like pretty things


3 amazing things that happened
1. A great virtual lesson
2. Having my own spot in town lake
3. Frozen margarita from Velvet Taco

"I mean, it could be a depressing time, but you don't allow that to happen."

How could I have made yesterday better?
1. Less moping

I am grateful for
1. My family
2. It's a sunday!
3. Work code working

What would make today great?
1. Going outside.
2. Some dancing

Daily affirmations. I am
1. wonderful
2. patient

Also this gave me life today. From ballroom dancer fiesta:

As such, I think that the psychological approach to rehab is a useful one. It is certainly the outlook I've adopted for myself. It looks something like this.

I don't know when I can return to the sport. But I promise to myself that as soon as I can, I will.
I cannot engage in training as usual. But there are certain related individual skills I can still practice
I cannot improve my overall skill. But I can maintain it, and keep from backsliding.
There is no emotional payoff for the work I do now. But overcoming this will make my future success that much sweeter.
I like pretty things

brain state

I'm having a hard time with resiliency. I'm okay for parts of the day and then I go into a downward spiral of rage or sadness for other parts of the day. We are just almost done with week 2. And it looks like this will last at least 4 more weeks. Help. Any non-conventional method tips? Assume I've tried the more usual tips like meditation or breathing. I don't want to start binge drinking either.

The way I self-medicate previously was ballroom dancing. Yes, I can dance at home, but it's totally different and doesn't have that zen feeling where I can just switch off my brain and follow a leader.


Kate: Hey N I really feel for ya. I discovered a couple years ago that I easily downward spiral if I don't have a hands-on craft that I'm actively engaged in (pottery now but previously it's been making books, marbling paper, printmaking). That's my ballroom dancing. It's an activity where there is flow and my brain goes to a different place - it feels almost empty and very calm.
I definitely think you need to find a replacement for your dancing. Can you figure out what it is about the dancing that helps get you into this state of mind? Is it the leader aspect, the music, the movement, a combination? There are likely other things you can do in isolation that will mimic various aspects of dance, but it may take some experimentation to find the right fit.
You game, too, right? have you done much gaming? Can you participate in a kind of led gaming? (I know Josh sometimes plays and leads some form of gaming like this although I don't know much more myself, but can always ask him).
I'm happy to brainstorm this with you, or maybe others here can suggest hobbies they use for this. And keep us posted if you find something that helps!


N: yes, that is the brain state I’m missing right now. Flow, empty, calm. You described it well.
I need to think what can replace it.


Kate Mac For sure. Let's brainstorm! It may well be something you've never considered before. It surprised me to discover that I need hands on crafty stuff and I explored a bunch of that stuff so that's my arena of knowledge. Others may have better ideas for more physical stuff. Maybe a type of martial art? Jennifer, Ed, Karen could suggest stuff here.
Singing? I bet there are online choirs forming.
I love carving into stuff whether it's wood, lino, clay.