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Wedding Budgeting

So the average cost for a wedding is about $30,000 these days, but the median cost is $15,000.  And for a while there, I entertained having a wedding for 15k. But it's still ridiculously high.

Andy has been lobbying for a cheap backyard wedding but I want a band and room to dance...  so here are the priorities for him and me, that we're willing to spend money on.

Food from his fav restaurants. He is going to pick up food from restaurants and bring it to the reception.  (help!)
More then a 100 guests. (I'm okay with just a 100 guests or less)
A dance floor
A band.

So after that, we figured out what else would cost what. His parents say they'll help with alcohol, flowers and rehearsal dinner. I lobbied to nix the rehearsal dinner so we have more money for the wedding, but he insisted on a quiet time when family and close friends can mingle with each other. Then I was like... fuck the flowers. I'll get a bouquet for myself and, a basket of petals for the flower girl, and we're fine.

We can do $100 for invitations that Andy will make, and I can make home-made favors on the cheap.

So after figuring out the budget, not including the wedding dress/groom tux, and the stuff his parents are helping with.
We still reach the number of $8000. That's $4000 for each of us. That's still a lot of money.


So now we're both at saving and figuring out how to finance our budget.

We love you all. And we would love to throw a party for you all.. but neither of us want to go in debt or take a large chunk out of savings for it!


Nov. 12th, 2009 05:40 pm (UTC)
Might I suggest delegating the food pickup to a friend, sibling, groomsman, etc? As the groom, he probably will have many other things on his mind, and driving around town picking up food instead of socializing with his guests seems like a less than efficient use of his time. Also, he's wanting food from multiple restaurants? I'd be wary of really good food becoming really unappetizing as it sits for an hour while waiting for one restaurant that wasn't on the ball having things prepared in a timely manner.

I've seen some lovely bouquets made by the bride from essentially grocery store flowers. I hear it can be time consuming but definitely saves money.

Another thought, if you're serving alcohol, you may be required by the state to have it served by a licensed caterer. Nathan pointed out that in PA, it's determined by the number of guests you have, and over 70 IIRC requires a licensed caterer or else you risk jail time for running an unlicensed bar. I don't know what sort of laws Texas has, though.

If you wanna chat wedding stuff, drop me a line, I've been on the business side of quite a few this year. ;)
Nov. 12th, 2009 06:47 pm (UTC)
"Might I suggest delegating the food pickup to a friend, sibling, groomsman, etc?"
We're definitely doing that.

Yeah, the food from multiple places it's a logistics issue. i'm going to make it happen because it's something he really cares about, he doesn't care about most of the wedding traditions, but he wants really really good food.

How hard is it to get flowers and put ribbons around it? :-P

yeah, we need a licensed bartender, not caterer to serve the alchol.