So the average cost for a wedding is about $30,000 these days, but the median cost is $15,000. And for a while there, I entertained having a wedding for 15k. But it's still ridiculously high.
Andy has been lobbying for a cheap backyard wedding but I want a band and room to dance... so here are the priorities for him and me, that we're willing to spend money on.
Him:
Food from his fav restaurants. He is going to pick up food from restaurants and bring it to the reception. (help!)
More then a 100 guests. (I'm okay with just a 100 guests or less)
Me:
A dance floor
A band.
So after that, we figured out what else would cost what. His parents say they'll help with alcohol, flowers and rehearsal dinner. I lobbied to nix the rehearsal dinner so we have more money for the wedding, but he insisted on a quiet time when family and close friends can mingle with each other. Then I was like... fuck the flowers. I'll get a bouquet for myself and, a basket of petals for the flower girl, and we're fine.
We can do $100 for invitations that Andy will make, and I can make home-made favors on the cheap.
So after figuring out the budget, not including the wedding dress/groom tux, and the stuff his parents are helping with.
We still reach the number of $8000. That's $4000 for each of us. That's still a lot of money.
GAAH.
So now we're both at saving and figuring out how to finance our budget.
We love you all. And we would love to throw a party for you all.. but neither of us want to go in debt or take a large chunk out of savings for it!
Andy has been lobbying for a cheap backyard wedding but I want a band and room to dance... so here are the priorities for him and me, that we're willing to spend money on.
Him:
Food from his fav restaurants. He is going to pick up food from restaurants and bring it to the reception. (help!)
More then a 100 guests. (I'm okay with just a 100 guests or less)
Me:
A dance floor
A band.
So after that, we figured out what else would cost what. His parents say they'll help with alcohol, flowers and rehearsal dinner. I lobbied to nix the rehearsal dinner so we have more money for the wedding, but he insisted on a quiet time when family and close friends can mingle with each other. Then I was like... fuck the flowers. I'll get a bouquet for myself and, a basket of petals for the flower girl, and we're fine.
We can do $100 for invitations that Andy will make, and I can make home-made favors on the cheap.
So after figuring out the budget, not including the wedding dress/groom tux, and the stuff his parents are helping with.
We still reach the number of $8000. That's $4000 for each of us. That's still a lot of money.
GAAH.
So now we're both at saving and figuring out how to finance our budget.
We love you all. And we would love to throw a party for you all.. but neither of us want to go in debt or take a large chunk out of savings for it!
Comments
- i don't want a rag tag band put together in the last minute, or use an ipod list. i want a band whom i've heard play really well, and generally those people will charge money. and i already know which band i want.
- a restaurant will generally not allow food from other places, and will still cost money to reserve. andy is adamant about having food from multiple palces.
- nah, if andy wants a 150 people wedding i don't want him to have to cut it down, it's a big party for our friends.
as for the other stuff that's not in my priorities, like wedding invitations, and flowers, that we can figure out how to make cheap and go with the diy option.
I would NOT use an ink-jet printer because of possible smudging if your invites get caught in the rain.
Don't forget the cost of postage. Both the letter out and the postcard back need stamps on them.