I posted this on a forum recently, and it's been so quiet on LJ lately anyways... so here you go:
I confess that it irritates me to no end when people say:
"You won't understand till you have children"
"You won't understand till you are married"
"You won't understand till you are in a long-term relationship"
I'm married, and I try not to say annoying shit like that to my single girlfriends. And being married is awesome, but so is being a single and a confident woman.
Being married, or having children, does not make you a happier person. You CHOOSE to be a happier person. Lots of unhappy, fucked up families. There is no one who can make you unhappier then a family member or loved one.
And another thing that irritates me, though I'll probably act like it one day: Acting like you're the first woman who's gone through pregnancy and discovering parenting truths for the first time ever.
I confess that it irritates me to no end when people say:
"You won't understand till you have children"
"You won't understand till you are married"
"You won't understand till you are in a long-term relationship"
I'm married, and I try not to say annoying shit like that to my single girlfriends. And being married is awesome, but so is being a single and a confident woman.
Being married, or having children, does not make you a happier person. You CHOOSE to be a happier person. Lots of unhappy, fucked up families. There is no one who can make you unhappier then a family member or loved one.
And another thing that irritates me, though I'll probably act like it one day: Acting like you're the first woman who's gone through pregnancy and discovering parenting truths for the first time ever.
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I give you permission to (metaphorically) slap me if I ever do that!
Now that I'm married, people can't say the "You won't understand till you are married..."
But the child thing still applies. I remember having dinner with a fellow Cornellian and she said, "You're not really an adult till you have children."
I'm sure Mother Theresa likes to know she was never really an adult.
Preach on sister! *sways*
I agree that's annoying. Some people even toss it around on reflex, I've lost count of, for example, the people on Slashdot who thinks since I disagree with them, I can't have any experience with parenting / relationships / whatever.
And it's *doubly* annoying if people strongly imply that *their* choices are the only ones who lead to a "complete" life, and any other choice, would thus by nessecity mean missing out on important essential pieces of life.
Hello ? ANY choice means saying NO to other choices. Saying *yes* to kids, for example, mean saying NO to a million other things, who is to say those other things cannot be equally worthwhile ?