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I think Roy's facebook post on the NYTimes article on friendships as an adult made me think on the progress I've made recently. I made a post several months ago about being sad that my friends left austin and feeling lonely, but after that realization I made more of an effort to make and revive friendships. Basically it just meant I had to get my butt out the door and go socialize. I work a lot of Saturdays, so I miss major parties, but I could still do a lot of weekday stuff. Also I found unexpected friendships in boardgaming, and I've made one really close friend in photography. Her name is Jenny, and she's awesome. And we've started texting each other all the time, and if we haven't talked to each other in 3 days we're like... it's been ages! Hahaha, I feel like I'm writing about dating. We send each other business referrals when we're booked and she's pretty cool. I've also made other photography friends and last week I hosted a cupcake party for the photog ladies, thanks to Kristin's cupcakes.

So it's happening. I think Austin is an easy place to make friends because everything is so close unlike the Bay Area. I'm still looking for a videogame friend though since Peter left for Google. It's just a matter of investing the time. As an introvert I sometimes just love reading and curling up with my cat, it's a balance.

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dnivie
Jul. 24th, 2012 06:49 am (UTC)
The article is good. Repeated unplanned interaction, and an atmosphere that encourages letting lowering your guard. And it's true that these are rare in the lives of an adult.

Basically the only settings that qualify for me is geocaching, online, and being a scout-leader. But in two of these I'm primarily occupied with watching over children and thus friendmaking with other adults is only a secondary thing.

Making friends online is easier, the only drawback is that you get friends that you rarely, in some cases never, meet. This sucks. On the flipside, you can be friends with very diverse people, which wouldn't be possible offline.
ripresa
Jul. 24th, 2012 02:44 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it's surprised me to slowly make friends with boardgaming... but i guess it's an activity that happens regularly and you start interacting with people.
__bin
Jul. 29th, 2012 09:48 pm (UTC)
I think that once you're married, making friends becomes like dating because that's the uncertain part of your life. I feel the same way about it! I would love to make some boardgaming friends as it's one of my new hobbies.. I only have one and she lives an hour away, and there aren't enough 2 person games for us. We need more players!
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