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There has been so many screenings. I pretty much went from hardly going to the doctor to multiple doctor visits a month.
We are set on a home birth, however we did also take a bunch of the "optional screenings" and did that through an ob/gyn.

I've been tested for a million stds, including ones I've never heard of.

I've been speculumed twice.

My boobs have been massaged repeatedly.

My urine taken twice.

Thyroid checked.

The baby has been looked at through ultrasound and my blood work.

It's a LOT of stuff. And I'm only midway through. It's hard not to be anxious when there are so many tests to run. And you can't see the baby.

I'm pretty anxiety proned, so it has been a lesson in patience and letting go and trusting that my body knows what it's doing.

It's actually pretty hillarious that we're set on a home birth since an OCD person like me would probably be more hospital based. But both me and husband are actually pretty hippie in our views of western medicine.

I don't want to get into a debate about home births (since my Facebook thread turned a little bit into that.) I had posted asking people with home birth experiences to share. And people not into home birth started opining and stuff. But it was a good post because a lot of people posted or PMed me with their home birth experiences. I was surprised at how many people have done it since in the US, less then 1% of people do home births.

Basically, I think the reason home births are safer now is because they only take low risk pregnancies. They turn away high blood pressure women, or if your weight is too high. Or if certain blood work had not turned out normal. Also, the midwives show up with oxygen, pitocin, and other things that are just in case.

Also if the baby is earlier then 36 weeks it's straight to the hospital with you. Which worries me since 3 of my friends who gave birth recently were earlier then that.

But again... letting go. If the baby and my body cooperates, we'll have a home birth. Otherwise, it's a ride to the hospital.

I am thankful and happy that I'm pregnant. I'm very grateful that we are in week 20 now, midway through! And things are normal.

When my mind quiets down, I'm definitely filled with wonder at this strange and miraculous process that women before me have gone through.

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zuleikhajami
Mar. 21st, 2014 09:57 pm (UTC)
Home births are concentrated among the upper and hippie classes in the US, so I'm not so surprised in Austin your friendship group consists of more people who have done it. I was all about the epidural, though.
floppyghost
Apr. 14th, 2014 11:55 am (UTC)
Are intermediary solutions rare in USA ? It's my impression that many either go full-hospital or entirely-at-home. My corner of the world, many (perhaps even most) births happen in midwife-led units with a home-like atmosphere and a natural setting -- but one which is located adjacent to the hospital so that the full machinery of modern western medicine can be activated at a minutes notice on the rare occasions when it's needed.

This seems nice to me. I can fully understand women who don't want to give birth in something like a surgery-theatre, and who prefer a more natural and more comfortable environment than white walls and corrosion-resistant steel to stereotype hospitals just a bit.

We'd have used that, but of course "twins" sufficed to make the birth a "high risk" one so it wasn't recommended.
ripresa
Apr. 14th, 2014 03:02 pm (UTC)
They have birth centers and some are attached to hospitals. And midwives and doulas too.
firth
Mar. 22nd, 2014 03:31 am (UTC)
A friend of mine is in med school and she did a thesis-type paper on the history of birth trends, and to make a long story short she basically says that people just want to tell women what to do (including other women) and that it is ultimately a very personal choice, but neither is "right" or "wrong".

And, of course, at this point no matter what choice you make there is still a significant number of people who will think you are completely wrong.
ripresa
Mar. 22nd, 2014 03:35 am (UTC)
Yeah, some of the mom groups can be a very polarizing and judgmental place... I'm trying to find the more chill and rational mom groups.
nekomouser
Mar. 26th, 2014 08:04 pm (UTC)
Oh, but you're becoming a parent (congrats by the way!). From experience I can tell you that you're about to enter a whole new world of judgement, criticism, unsolicited advice, mental and social competitions you didn't even know existed, and targeted marketing. Oh, the marketing!
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