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It takes a village

One of my best friends just had a baby 4 months ago and it's been so educational watching her. She's giving me tips, and I've also babysat and helped her out.

But she's struggling. I read somewhere that 10% of moms get postpartum depression. I think honestly, most moms get depressed and the 10% are depressed enough to need medical help.

I called her up and she was crying since she had such a rough morning, the baby won't stop crying. And her husband is coming back from work to help her.

I really think it takes a village to raise a child. This doing it by yourself at home while your husband is away from 8 to 5 pm, just doesn't seem right. For anyone. Especially for the mom who feels at home and trapped.

We're not going to be hesitant about people offering to babysit. You want to help, sure! Today or tomorrow?

Even if it's just to have other people around you to be with you, so you're not home alone with a crying baby.

I really wish the co-housing project in Mueller had succeeded. I want to live in an Austin village!

Anyways, I want to add that we're super excited about having a baby.

I am excited that Andy has agreed to be primary care giver, and also take care of night feeds.

Let me bold that so he remembers what he agreed to :-D



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Apr. 9th, 2014 04:21 am (UTC)
We totally had the "oh, yes, we'll take anyone up on babysitting" plans. Then we discovered there are two kinds of babysitting, the planned kind and the ZOMG I need a break right now before I kill someone kind. It's easy to ask friends to help with the first kind. I've found it harder to ask for the second kind, because it is more of an "I need this to happen right now" kind of thing. It's the kind of time where I really wish we had family in town, because those kind of calls seem like something that a grandma or aunt would be willing to do much more than a friend. YMMV
Apr. 9th, 2014 01:59 pm (UTC)
Andy's sister is in town, she's younger and don't want kids but we can force her to take the baby. Hahahah.

But we will relieve each other too.
Apr. 14th, 2014 12:11 pm (UTC)
I volunteer. Next time you're in town, feel free to drop kid of, and spend the night out with Andy doing something fun.
Apr. 14th, 2014 03:04 pm (UTC)
Done. We will drop her off and go tour Europe ;-)
Apr. 14th, 2014 12:09 pm (UTC)
Agree 100% -- but it helps for the second type if both parents are available (i.e. not at work at the moment etc), because sometime an hour drinking a Latte and reading a book in the Cafe down the road is all you need.
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