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boobs, uber car, formula and hippie moms

i went to the photog meetup yesterday and people were surprised to see me. but it was only for an hour or so and i took an Uber to get home. Ubers are awesome! i'm surprised since their owner is such a dbag, but the whole system was great. it shows me the driver (which was a woman) and where the car is.

thank you to the parents that responded with support for me and breastfeeding. we actually do use formula as well. her weight dropped over the 10% point, so she was born 10 lbs 1 oz and her lowest weight was 8 lbs 15.5 oz.

we use fancy formula that has to be exported in through UK and it's from Germany, it's called HiPP. there's a strange monopoly going on with US formula companies and they don't allow the sale of foreign formulas here. and europe has tighter non-GMO and organic certification.

so yeah, i don't even know how people exclusive breast feed. that's like every 2-3 hours where they're hanging off your boobs. that's 40 hours a week. that's a full time job. so basically right now it's a part-time job for me. i still pump and breast feed, just not for 40 hours a week. if that works for you, great.

it's basically how we're approaching most of the hippie parenting precepts. we cloth diaper. we also use disposables when i don't want to deal with it. and andy does elimination communication (diaper free).

we co-sleep or co-room.
yesterday on the 8th day, we finally put her in the crib in a room alone, and andy slept in the living room with the door open. it's the first time she slept in a room alone.

whatever works.

what i'm finding is that the hippie mom is way more judgey then mainstream moms.

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zuleikhajami
Aug. 21st, 2014 10:52 pm (UTC)
When SB was a baby, she nursed practically once an hour. She did nurse for a shorter period of time than many babies did (probably because of my oversupply issues), but it was maddening. I really thought I was going to go mad during those initial months, especially because she wouldn't take a bottle so I was fairly stuck.

I did walk around and do things while she was nursing during that time period, though, because she was still small. By the time she was too big to be portable, her nursing had spaced out more. But it still sucked.
ripresa
Aug. 21st, 2014 10:57 pm (UTC)
You could still have done other things besides the bottle... Though it's too late now.
Andy does finger sucking with a syringe. He sticks his finger in and she sucks on that.
Also with an SNS system which is a feeding tube.

Both was to avoid nipple confusion.

But thankfully we found she likes the tommy tippee nipple.

But Andy still prefers the SNS system.

Edited at 2014-08-21 10:59 pm (UTC)
zuleikhajami
Aug. 22nd, 2014 06:19 am (UTC)
We did try other things besides the bottle. We tried spoon feeding, syringe feeding, and cup feeding (and the Tommy Tippee was one of the many attempted bottle types). We did not try SNS because we could get no support for alternate feeding methods from the Kaiser lactation consultant or our nurse practitioner and didn't know where to acquire the tools for it. She would take a small syringe, but not one large enough to hold any kind of milk quantity.
ripresa
Aug. 22nd, 2014 01:23 pm (UTC)
Yeah the SNS system was a pain in the butt, we were supposed to use it with my nipple but it left baby and me frustrated.

Andy uses it with his finger. Poor baby has sucked on his finger for hours now.

But definitely not a babysitter friendly option, so I'm thankful she is willing to take the tommy tippee.

sylke
Aug. 24th, 2014 02:43 am (UTC)
Glad to hear she's able to switch back and forth between nipple, bottle, and finger! We finger-fed with an SNS for the first week or so with A. He lost more than 10% body weight too, so we followed each nursing session with finger-SNS until his latch got better and was able to nurse enough on his own. Getting his tongue tie snipped made a huge difference. You're absolutely right about exclusive breastfeeding being a full-time job, though. My first photography session after giving birth was at 4 weeks and was only a couple hours for an e-session, but it felt like a huge (and luxurious) amount of time away from the baby.
ripresa
Aug. 24th, 2014 03:07 am (UTC)
Yeah I think she has a tongue tie.
sylke
Aug. 24th, 2014 03:49 am (UTC)
Ooooh. Ok, yeah, that can make nursing a royal bitch. Painful *and* ineffective. Does her tongue make a wide "V" or heart shape when she cries? Were you at least offered the option of having it clipped? A's was done in a physician's room at, like, day 4? day 5? with basically a pair of scissors. They offered to refer us to an ENT if we wanted, but having it done that early, a doctor at the local breastfeeding center was able to just go "snip" during an office visit and it was done. Almost no bleeding, and the difference it made in nursing was apparent within 24 hours. We were able to stop finger feeding and after two days, I wasn't crying after nursing sessions from the pain. If you're at all on the fence about having it done, I can say that we (both A and I) benefitted immensely from it and would highly recommend it. (I've even heard tell that midwives used to keep one fingernail extra long and sharp to swipe tongue-ties as soon as the child was born.)
ripresa
Aug. 24th, 2014 01:45 pm (UTC)
hmm it doesn't. but one LC noticed she doesn't stick her tongue out.
athene
Aug. 29th, 2014 02:48 pm (UTC)
If she has a tounge-tie, get it fixed as soon as possible. I went seven months before getting LP's fixed and nursing was sooo different afterwards. I wish I'd had it done much sooner.

http://milkmatters.org.uk/2011/04/15/hidden-cause-of-feeding-problems-however-you-feed-your-baby/
ripresa
Aug. 29th, 2014 03:04 pm (UTC)
So I ask the ped, and she said that the baby has a very minor tongue tie. so now i'm not sure what to do.
floppyghost
Aug. 23rd, 2014 09:08 am (UTC)
I guess one of the reasons I'm really big on "whatever works" is that we had twins. In addition to that we had a 2-year-old. We had zero family or other resources to lean on in the area, it was me, my wife and the 3 kids.

The twins were born early (like nearly all twins are), and in sum weighed about as much as Kaya does. They needed feeding every 2 hours day and night to gain weight. Until they crossed 5 lbs they were also weighed on an accurate scale before and after each feeding and the results written down - the alternative to all this was to have them remain in hospital, which we did not want.

And they were not synchronized initially, i.e. they'd not wake up or be hungry at the same time.

The logistics of that. On top of trying to get breastfeeding to work, and I think anyone should be able to see why making it possible for me too (in addition to Silvia) to do feeding was pretty much a life-saver for us.
ripresa
Aug. 23rd, 2014 06:56 pm (UTC)
wow yeah. twins. that's rough!
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