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ptsd

things i now know. how hospital beds work. how the rails on hospital beds work.
how being inside seton for 4 days felt like.

urgh. mild ptsd moment from reading a nytimes article on hospital room layout and how designing it better meant the patient required less pain meds. andy's sofa was so far from me from the hospital bed.

reading the ingredients of epsom salt and realizing that it's magnesium sulphate. the horrible IV hooked on me for 24 hours. it made me so hot, we kept the room really cold. we found out afterwards that we did good declining the IV prior to delivery because otherwise baby would have been a "mag baby". so i felt like shit for 24 hours but she didn't.

it's good that i'm in a crunchy due date club, i'm being forced to see all these home births and birthing center births and learning to celebrate for them and managing my bitterness. which isn't a lot. btw, i'm super practical about all this, but once in a while a feeling hits me and i'm like... i guess i'm not as logical as i think i am.

i guess i'm taking a moment to feel sad for the birth that i didn't have.

but hey! on the bright side... i have no perineal tear. my vagina feels good! i don't have to worry about uterine prolapse. and, i labored for 20 hours before the c-section. so, whatever.

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floppyghost
Aug. 23rd, 2014 02:39 pm (UTC)
The hospital-room thing is so true ! When we had our first (in Germany) Silvia was in a 4-bed-room where there was no option for the father at all, and disturbance was -constant- between visitors to someone and some baby or other being unhappy. (pretty much a given with 4 new-borns)

Then we had the twins here in Stavanger. Here there's a patient-hotel directly attached to the hospital, including 30 rooms especially adapted for new parents. Double room just for us. With room-service. Such a huuuuuge difference ! Actually cosy room too, rather than typical hospital-white one.

I've not read that research, but it sounds perfectly plausible to me that a nicer room, with more privacy and ideally place for the father in bed, will help reduce the need for pain-meds.
ripresa
Aug. 23rd, 2014 04:58 pm (UTC)
wow, i can't imagine sharing a room.

we had our own private room for labor and also for the mother-baby afterwards. and each one had its own private bathroom, and a sofa. in the delivery room the sofa was a pull out.

still we were disturbed by the nurses and techs taking my BP. and also i don't like how the sofa was so far away. overall, our hospital was great. gave us diapers, hats, clothes, blankets, a bath robe, slippers, etc.

i got meals, and andy only got fed for our "special dinner". but we had all the juices we wanted.

but the decor and layout could use improvement.
floppyghost
Aug. 23rd, 2014 07:01 pm (UTC)
Sharing a room was crap. 4 mothers, 4 babies and a near-constant stream of visitors coming and going does not make for a calm and relaxed atmosphere. I was pretty darned dissatisfied with the German hospital.

You don't get disturbed in the patient-hotel: nobody comes unless you rings the bell for assistance. When you do have checkups or the like you bring yourself (or the baby) to the doc's office at the agreed-upon time. (if you're ill enough not to be mobile, not even in a wheelchair, then you can't use the patient-hotel and need to stay in the hospital proper)
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